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posted by [personal profile] marygriggs at 12:57pm on 21/11/2013 under ,

Candles for those lost TDOR 2013

I attended the New Orleans Transgender Day of Remembrance event at the First Unitarian Universalist Church of New Orleans last night because it is important for our community to memorialize those taken from us because of hate. I was there as someone who has worked alongside the trans community but also because I was invited as a representative of the Forum For Equality, an LGBT human rights organization here in Louisiana.

It was a lovely place to hold this service and there were many powerful speakers who spoke of the pain but also of hope. Standing there, as the names of the US victims of transphobic violence and some of the international ones, was very moving. To have the stark truth read out of the severe forms of hate violence, the police indifference and even the journalistic failure to give dignity in death for individual's chosen names and pronouns was sobering as to the real and daily harassment and discrimination faced by the trans community.

We must do all we can to to end violence against transgender and gender non-conforming people because one is too many.

Below are my remarks:

I want to start with an apology.

I apologize for the way in which the lesbian and gay community in particular has hurt transpeople. I am sorry. I’m sorry for my own failure to be the best ally possible. I’m sorry that your allies have not always fought for your rights, have not been by your side in all your battles and made you feel disrespected, isolated and questioning your own worthiness.

Society has tried to erase the presence and suppress the contributions of transgender and gender variant people and, to our shame, many of lesbians and gays have colluded with this silencing and ignored the needs of our trans brothers and sisters.

Words and attitudes can have very real consequences. It is horrific that this year saw over 250 people killed due to their gender identity or presentation. Such acts of violence against the transgender community are linked to the failure of our entire community to work to end transgender discrimination and oppressive conditions for gender non-conforming people.

All of us deserve to thrive and to bring our fullest, most vibrant versions of our selves into the open. The world is made more whole by the full participation of transpeople.

Tonight we mourn the dead. Tomorrow and every other day, we must fight for the living.

Please remember that you add value to this world that no-one else could ever replace. You are an important part of this community. Most importantly, we are in this together. Because of that I re-commit the Forum For Equality to supporting the needs and rights of transgender people and their families here in Louisiana and everywhere.

I’ll end with a quote from Paul Monette. While these words were written about the death toll from AIDS, they have special meaning on this Transgender Day of Remembrance.

He wrote: “Tell yourself: None of this ever had to happen. And then go make it stop, with whatever breath you have left. Grief is a sword, or it is nothing.”



First posted at my blog at http://marygriggs.wordpress.com/2013/11/21/transgender-day-of-remembrance-2013/
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posted by [personal profile] marygriggs at 10:21am on 17/05/2013 under ,
idahoI want to blog about privilege today. By that I mean the unearned advantage, power or entitlement conferred by membership in the dominant group. For example, some of us receive age advantages, ethnic advantages, physical ability advantages, as well as advantages related to nationality and religion.

These benefits are often times invisible to us. From my own life, I was taught to recognize racism only as individual acts of discrimination and bias by members of my racial group and not to see the institutional racism of the system itself. For many years, I was ignorant of the sometimes subtle and generally unsought racial advantages that were conferred on me because of my skin color. To me, it was normal to never have to worry about being harassed because of my race when shopping or driving. I learned history where people who looked like me made the major contributions and advancements and those who didn’t were usually barbarians, savages and natives who needed my race’s interference in order to develop. I benefited when my race was used by my mortgage and credit card company to determine my credit worthiness – in 2011, Bank of America was fined $335 million for minority discrimination.

Unless we make a conscious effort to see the privilege, those in the dominant group can blithely ignore what our brothers and sisters who are different face everyday.

To raise awareness for International Day Against Homophobia and Transphobia, I want to focus on straight and cis privilege and why it is important for us to be aware of how taking advantage of this unearned power can harm our interactions with others.

Miroslav Volf, in his book, Exclusion and Embrace: A Theological Exploration of Identity, Otherness, and Reconciliation asks, “Why should I embrace the other?” His answer is: “the others are part of my own true identity. I cannot live authentically without welcoming the others - the other gender, other person or other cultures - into the very structure of my being.”

Many straight people have never really thought too much about the other. They never consider the status, privilege and reputation that they enjoy simply by being in the sexual majority. They can turn on the television or open books and magazines to see role models for romance and relationships in their orientation. They are able to talk openly about their relationships and receive public recognition through engagement congratulations, being allowed to become lawfully wedded across the nation (with all the rights and responsibilities thereof) and even get support when their partner is ill or dies.

Not so with many gays, lesbians and bisexuals.

Beyond the fact that I live in one of the thirty-one states that has a constitutional amendment against marriage equality, did you know that I can also be fired for being a lesbian in more than half of the states of this great nation?

I spent time in Baton Rouge this legislative session to fight for protections for LGBT public employees here in Louisiana and we couldn’t even get House Bill 85 out of committee. Forum For Equality’s public employee survey indicated more than 60% of them had witnessed bigotry or discrimination because of sexual orientation or gender identity but we were told that protections for LGBT people would lead to discrimination against Christians.

That is of the aspects of heterosexual privilege that absolutely infuriates me. The assumption that homophobia is an acceptable offshoot of faith does a disservice to the many religions which preach love over hate and the many individuals who would never consider forcing their spiritual beliefs on others. One’s faith is not an excuse for bigotry nor should it allow one to oppress or discriminate against non-straight people. Additionally, the conviction that anyone who is lesbian, gay, bisexual or transgender cannot also have faith (ie cannot be a ‘real’ Christian, Jew, Muslim, etc) pushes many LGBT people and their allies away from organized religion entirely.

Moving beyond straight privilege there are the advantages conferred upon those whose sex assigned at birth reflects their gender identity and expression. For example, I was sexed female at birth, I experience my sex to be female, I identify as female and, while I tend toward the more butch side of the scale, the expression of my gender identity is generally within the accepted female gender role.

Now, we live in a patriarchy. Male privilege is everywhere. As a feminist, I believe gender is a social construct designed to oppress females as a class. Gendered thinking harms and restricts both women and men by creating a hierarchy based on how well one cleaves to or deviates from the ideal of femininity and masculinity. Only the abolition of gender will end the oppression of women.

Until such time as we can create a society free from gender, however, we need to acknowledge the very real existence of transphobia. My discussion of cis privilege does not any way minimize the negative impact of sexism. The discrimination faced by women is a terrible thing. So, too, are the health, housing, and employment disparities faced by trans people. Violence against women is at epidemic rates. So, too, are the rates of violence faced by trans folks. Rape, assault and murder should never be used as de facto social control but they are and both women and transgender people are terrorized by them.

I grew up with cis privilege. For my entire life, my female identity has been respected by my parents, my teachers, my doctors, my relatives, my classmates, my employers, and most people I interact with on a daily basis. My documentation matches the gender I present to the world, so I don’t have to fear being denied services at a hospital, bank, or emergency shelter because the staff has the power to judge whether the gender marker on my drivers’ license or passport matches my gender identity.

I was a tomboy growing up, with short hair and sporty attire and I experienced plenty of double glances when using public restrooms. At no time, however, have I felt endangered or physically intimidated by those who believed I was in the wrong facilities.

Unfortunately, it is a very real fear for many trans men and women who are subjected to verbal abuse or physical attack when they go to relieve themselves.

And the verbal abuse in not limited to restrooms. Far too many transgender individuals are harassed on the street (many times by police who profile them as sex workers) and on the job. 6,450 transgender and gender non-conforming people participated in the 2011 National Transgender Discrimination Survey which found widespread employment discrimination and economic insecurity including:

  • Double the rate of unemployment: Survey respondents experienced unemployment at twice the rate of the general population.

  • Widespread mistreatment at work: Ninety percent (90%) of those surveyed reported experiencing harassment, mistreatment or discrimination on the job

  • 47% said they had experienced an adverse job outcome, such as being fired, not hired or denied a promotion because of being transgender or gender non-conforming.

  • 26% reported that they had lost a job due to being transgender or gender non-conforming.


It doesn’t have to be that way.

Put yourself in the shoes of the Other today. Consider the reality they experience on a daily basis. Ask yourself if you really want to live your life or base your morality or gird your marriage with an identity that privileges some and maligns others on the basis of inner desires and feelings.

Now think about what you are willing to do to change things.

The truth is we all benefit when false power through socialized privilege is rooted out. Relinquishing the status of the majority can allow us to build a community together based on equality and justice for all.


Originally published on my blog: http://marygriggs.wordpress.com/2013/05/17/blog-against-homophobia-and-transphobia/
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posted by [personal profile] marygriggs at 07:00pm on 14/12/2012 under , ,
Candle Light 027

Twenty seven dead in a elementary school in Connecticut with twenty-two of them children between the ages of five and ten sure puts your day in perspective, doesn't it?

That 18-wheeler going below the speed limit in the passing lane on Highway 90 at 6 o'clock this morning? Those crowds I had to battle at three different malls? That unopened 2L bottle of vodka I smashed on the driveway? On most days, I'd get to whine and complain about how bad my day was.

Not today.

Today, you and I are not having the worst day ever. You and I, we are lucky to be alive, to be loved, and to have something to complain about. No, this isn't our bad day. Today's bad day been taken by the families of those school children and those teachers who have lost a loved one.

And they didn't lose their child or parent because the school day didn't start with a prayer, as Bobby Fischer has claimed. The American Family Association demogauge said that God could have protected the victims of this massacre, but didn't because "God is not going to go where he is not wanted" and if school administrators really want to protect students, they will start every school day with prayer. His words were echoed by Mike Huckabee later in the day when he blamed the violence on removing God from schools.

They lost their lives because the National Rifle Association wields far too much influence in politics. The NRA is decidedly against the obvious public safety concerns of the citizens. There have been at least 31 school shootings in the U.S. since Columbine happened 13 years ago and, instead of helping us be more responsible about guns, they advocate being armed in schools, daycares, churches, places where alcohol is served and at job sites. Such laws as well as Stand Your Ground legislation are wrong for the nation.

You want to know how much influence they have? Check here to see the money they've given to your elected representatives. In the 2012 election cycle, they gave $719,596.

I'm a gun owner and an advocate for the 2nd Amendment protection of private gun ownership. I do not believe that the right to bear arms is without limit, however. I believe we should reinstate the Brady Bill to ban assault weapons. I believe that high capacity magazines should be illegal. I believe that kits to switch semi-automatics to automatics should be illegal and that gun manufactures should make it harder, not easier, to modify their weapons or face liability lawsuits. I believe that there should be waiting times for gun purchases, not only for the 'cooling off' effect but for both criminal databases and mental health registries of the violently mentally ill to be checked.

I don't have all the facts about today's shooting in Newton, Connecticut but I know that December just got darker. And unless we take our country back from the NRA, I don't see it getting better.
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posted by [personal profile] marygriggs at 11:18am on 11/10/2012 under ,
Coming out is an intensely private act made public. It is a process that might start with just telling one person and, once you realize that they still loved and accepted you, might have gone on to include everyone else in your life.

Some people are bullied for their sexual orientation before they even know themselves what the words gay and lesbian mean. The It Gets Better Project was set up to help those who are suffering in hostile environments to learn that circumstances can change and time can heal. The collection of videos from people who have come out, survived and thrived are incredibly powerful to watch.

Every person who comes out makes it better for the next person. A 2007 Pew study found that as more LGBT people come out of the closet, the more accepting their friends and relatives are. In fact, people who have a close gay friend or family member are more likely to support gay marriage and they are also significantly less likely to favor allowing schools to fire gay teachers than are those with little or no personal contact with gays, the poll found.

As Harvey Milk so famously said in his speech on Gay Freedom Day on June 25, 1978:

“Gay brothers and sisters… You must come out. Come out... to your parents... I know that it is hard and will hurt them but think about how they will hurt you in the voting booth! Come out to your relatives... come out to your friends... if indeed they are your friends. Come out to your neighbors... to your fellow workers... to the people who work where you eat and shop... But once and for all, break down the myths, destroy the lies and distortions. For your sake. For their sake. For the sake of the youngsters who are becoming scared by the votes from Dade to Eugene.”

“That’s What America Is”

Those youngsters he spoke of are still struggling today. They need positive examples of healthy and whole LGBTQ persons. Role models may be family members, movie stars or musicians and they may even be athletes.

It can be incredibly empowering for a young lesbian, gay, bisexual or transgender person who has taken refuge in athletics to see someone in their sport who is also honest and open about their sexual orientation.

The Olympic games were held this year and the number of openly gay and lesbian athletes at the London Summer Games was the highest ever. There were 23 openly gay and lesbian London Olympians, plus two coaches. There are also two gay Paralympians. This compares with 11 in Athens and 10 in Beijing,

In even bigger sports news, Puerto Rican featherweight boxer Orlando Cruz
came out. Cruz is the first openly gay man in boxing history.

“I’ve been fighting for more than 24 years and, as I continue my ascendant career, I want to be true to myself,” said Cruz. “I want to try to be the best role model I can be for kids who might look into boxing as a sport and a professional career. I have and will always be a proud Puerto Rican. I have always been and always will be a proud gay man.”

What might be even more important than finding positive LGBT role models in sports, especially in an election year, is having candidates on the ballot who bring the same honesty and openness to their campaigning.

This year, we will see the first openly bisexual candidate, Kyrsten Sinema of Arizona and, hopefully, our first openly gay senator, Tammy Baldwin of Wisconsin.

In the House, eight openly LGBT candidates are running as major-party nominees for the House of Representatives. Two are incumbents who are favored in their races (Democrats Jared Polis of Colorado and David Cicilline of Rhode Island) and there is even one gay Republican in the group, Richard Tisei of Massachusetts.

“People know that bigotry is bad politics,” said Democrat Sean Patrick Maloney, a former adviser to President Bill Clinton who is trying to oust one-term Republican Nan Hayworth from New York's 18th District in the Hudson Valley. Maloney went on to say, “There is a real power in being yourself. When you’re not afraid, when you live your life with honesty and integrity, it makes you a better parent, a better colleague, a better friend and a better candidate.”

I couldn’t have said it better myself!



Originally posted at: http://marygriggs.wordpress.com/2012/10/10/come-out-and-be-a-better-you/
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posted by [personal profile] marygriggs at 11:30pm on 18/09/2012 under ,

I was driving from New Orleans to Baton Rouge along I-12 when I came across this billboard:

Satan As Barack Obama

It is promoting this book by Stephen Kirk. According to the description on Amazon, in a mere 92 pages:
This book presents powerfully documented vignettes to the key end times questions of "Who is the Anti-Christ? What does the 666 mean? What about America" No other book provides the scriptural proof texting direct from the Greek and Hebrew to confirm that Obama is the Anti-Christ, the 666 represents the mindset of Socialism, and America is doomed to a nuclear holocaust. Luke 10:18 records Jesus stating "I beheld Satan as lightning" which translates to "Satan as Barack" in Hebrew. Judas Iscariot, the betrayer of Christ, did so in a socialist rage against the inequalities of life and Jesus's acceptance of poverty. Finally, Isaiah chapter 18 describes the massive destruction of a nation matching the unique characteristics of the USA on 16 different points all ending with the bringing of "THE SHE" gift, the Bride of Christ, the Church to heaven.

My years of vacation bible school had me vaguely remembering that Luke 10 has the parable of the Good Samaritan in it but I couldn't remember any bible study class talking about the 44th President of the United States as the Fallen Angel. After I returned safely to New Orleans, I went to www.biblegateway.com and read Luke 10:18. I've posted what several translations say:


New International Version
He replied, "I saw Satan fall like lightning from heaven.
New Living Translation
"Yes," he told them, "I saw Satan fall from heaven like lightning!
English Standard Version
And he said to them, “I saw Satan fall like lightning from heaven.
New American Standard Bible
And He said to them, "I was watching Satan fall from heaven like lightning.
King James Bible (Cambridge Ed.)
And he said unto them, I beheld Satan as lightning fall from heaven.

International Standard Version
He said to them, "I watched Satan falling from heaven like lightning.

Okay, in Hebrew, Barak does mean lightning (it also is the anglicized version of Baraka, which means 'blessing' in Kiswahili, a language spoken by President Obama's Kenyan father) but how on earth is there any contextual connection between the verse and the man?

It makes no sense.

That is until you realize something - this billboard was outside Walker, Louisiana which just happens to be the headquarters for the The Dixie Rangers Of The Ku Klux Klan. Just down the road is the Bogalusa Klan chapter called the Sons of Dixie (of which 8 members were convicted of murder and conspiracy in 2008). And then, you have the Aryan Nations Knights of Louisiana's Baton Rouge Headquarters distributing this flyer over the weekend in Zachary.



It is no coincidence that an articulate and competent African-American man as our President is driving these racists crazy. Not content to disenfranchise as many voters as possible with the ALEC based efforts to change voter ID laws, these racists are falling back on the KKK's old tricks of intimidating people who are registering to vote (Louisiana statutes require you to be registered 30 days prior to an election to be eligible to vote in that particular election) and suppressing the numbers of voters on November 6.

We cannot allow our democracy to be stolen by the forces of ignorance and hatred. Protect the right to vote by
  • making sure all your friends and family are properly registered and know what they need to take with them to the polls;
  • educating yourself and others about the issues and candidates to be decided in November;
  • pledging to vote on Election Day.


Originally published on -http://marygriggs.wordpress.com/2012/09/18/words-fail-me/
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posted by [personal profile] marygriggs at 08:16pm on 03/08/2012 under ,

Every single person who deliberately ate at Chick-fil-a on Wednesday and claimed they did so to protect Freedom of Speech or Freedom of Religion is operating under a misconception.

 

Mr. Cathy and the entire Chick-fil-a family is allowed, under the US Constitution, to have beliefs which differ from mine and I will defend their right to express them and I will fight any attempt to silence them.

 

But this isn’t about Christianity, the 1st Amendment or two crucial pickles. It is about money from patrons being spent to fight the equal treatment of other patrons.



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The 990's filed with the IRS by WinShape are publicly available and show that money from Chick-fil-a is going to fund more than just summer camps to strengthen traditional marriage. It has given more than $5 million to groups like the Family Research Council and the American Family Association that spread lies and hate, that teach scientifically repudiated “ex-gay” therapy and that have worked to put into law death sentences for homosexuals. If there were any doubt about where your money is going, Herman Cain went on Fox News today to say that $30 million dollars from Wednesday’s Chick-fil-a Appreciation day is going to fund anti-LGBT groups.

 

The profit from that meal you just enjoyed is going to oppose my receiving equal treatment under the law. You and I both know there is not a single, credible, non-religious reason to deny equal rights to LGBT people. Instead of working to end injustice, however, you've just funded organizations that are working to deny other people rights that you possess.

 

LGBT activists aren’t trying to dissolve your marriage or criminalize your consensual sexual behavior. We’re not trying to make anyone a second class citizen or place undue taxes on anyone else’s relationships. Our rights aren’t special; they are the exact same ones you enjoy because you happen to have been born a heterosexual.

 

Please try to put yourself in our place. If someone you cared about came to you and told you that someone hurt them, would you respond by going out and buying lunch for the aggressor?


I’m not asking you to go on a hunger strike in solidarity of the LGBT community or even to support marriage equality.


All I want is for you to be mindful that the money you spent to buy that meal is being used to harm people you know and love.

 

Is it really worth that?

 

How about you donate the amount of that sandwich, waffle fries and drink to an LGBT equality organization like Forum For Equality? It is easy to donate, just click here!

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posted by [personal profile] marygriggs at 07:00pm on 15/07/2012 under

We’ve all heard about the war against women. What hasn’t gotten the same amount of press is that the war goes beyond reproductive health to an attack on women’s most basic civil rights.


 


Ninety-two years ago, the 19th Amendment to the United States Constitution granted American women the right to vote in national and local elections. The amendment is beautiful in its brevity and clarity: “The right of citizens of the United States to vote shall not be denied or abridged by the United States or by any State on account of sex.”




Women’s suffrage was by no means global when the United Nations Universal Declaration of Human Rights was adopted in 1948. Article 21 of that document declared that everyone has the right to take part in the government and that the will of the people (which shall be by universal and equal suffrage), expressed in periodic and genuine elections, shall be the basis of the authority of government.


 


You would have thought the issue of our constructive participation in the political process would be fait accompli, the done-est of done deals.




You would have thought wrong.




For example, Janis Lane, president of the Central Mississippi Tea Party gave an interview to the Jackson Free Pressrecently. As part of her discussion on where things went wrong, she said: “I'm really going to set you back here. Probably the biggest turn we ever made was when the women got the right to vote. Our country might have been better off if it was still just men voting.”


 


Perpetual blowhard Rush Limbaugh is not known for his feminist sensibilities. However, even long time detractors were a little taken aback by his blatant disrespect for women after he said on his July 3rd show, “When women got the right to vote is when it all went downhill.”


 


They are just the latest wave in an all out assault on women voters.


 


Across the nation, there has been a concerted effort by Republicans to disenfranchise voters. These laws will have a detrimental impact on women. Since the beginning of 2011, at least 180 bills restricting voting rights were introduced in 41 states. While identification requirements for voting are certainly not new, many states have prohibited once-acceptable identification such as student IDs, Social Security cards, utility bills and bank statements in favor of the “strict” or government-issued photo IDs.


 


Luckily, Louisiana was not one of those states that adopted the new ALEC inspired (and drafted) laws. The Louisiana Secretary of State lists out acceptable Election Day proof of identity: “a driver's license, a Louisiana Special ID, or some other generally recognized picture ID that contains your name and signature. Voters who have no picture ID may bring a utility bill, payroll check or government document that includes their name and address but they will have to sign an affidavit furnished by the Elections Division in order to vote.”


 


There are several factors that contribute to a person not having a current and valid photo ID. Such documents expire. Some voters do not drive, therefore a state-issued drivers license is not necessary. Voters move and are unable to obtain new ID prior to registration or Election Day.


 


Strict photo-ID requirements and proof-of-citizenship laws particularly affect women who change their name after getting married or divorced. Because updating documentation takes time and money, these laws create an additional barrier for low-income women. According to the Brennan Center, only 48 percent of voting-age women with ready access to their U.S. birth certificates have a birth certificate with their current legal name. The same survey showed that only 66 percent of voting-age women had ready access to proof-of-citizenship documentation with their current legal name.


 


The transgender community is also greatly affected, since many of those who have transitioned to another gender are unable to update their IDs to their current gender because of difficulty satisfying state requirements on changing gender markers. According to a recent national survey, only 59 percent of trans people have updated photo IDs.


 


So why do some folks wish that women didn’t have the right to vote? Why, in the face of virtually non-existent voter fraud, do the Republican continue to push to keep women away from the polls?


 


Simply put, the numbers don’t lie. Women have been a majority of the total vote in every election since 1984. According to poll data from the Pew Research Center, women comprised 53 percent of the overall electorate in 2008, 54 percent in 2004 and 52 percent in 2000.


 


And Republicans haven’t fared well with women voters. The same poll data shows that if you lose the women’s vote by any more than 11 points, it’s difficult for a Republican to get elected to the White House. Not since 1988 has a Republican presidential candidate won the women’s vote.


 


It is not just the White House that is at stake. Most of the biggest challenges to women’s reproductive health choices are being made at the state level. Expansion of anti-discrimination laws to include sexual orientation and gender identity are being passed at the city level. Challenges to the teaching of scientifically proven evolution as being made at the local school board level. Further, changes to state constitutions (like to advance marriage equality) are decided by individual voters.


 


Electing tomorrow’s decision makers begins with us today. Because if you don’t vote, you don’t count. Don’t just get mad, get registered and vote!


 


In Louisiana, go to the Secretary of State website for information on how to register to vote, as well as links to important information about ballots, voting and elections. Remember, Geaux Vote.com!

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posted by [personal profile] marygriggs at 09:14pm on 04/07/2012 under
When I was a kid, my family was stationed overseas in Germany. Back then, Armed Forces Radio and TV network provided the only English language programming. They were limited in the amount of children's programming and only had two hours of cartoons on Saturday.

At the end of our tour, we flew back to the States and were on base in Ft. Dix, New Jersey. It was early on a Saturday when my sister and I snuck down to the common area of the visitor’s quarters and turned on the TV.

We were awestruck.

There was station after station of cartoons. More than any one kid could possibly watch. There were old style Looney Tunes, weird animations from Japan and sophisticated cartoons mixed with live action. There was even an entire network dedicated to cartoons.

And that is what freedom means to me: having more choices than I could possibly use, with everything for any taste available and no parent telling me what to watch.

That is the how I look at religion, too. There is a faith smorgasbord out there and belief (or not) is a personal decision.

I'm not alone. The very foundation of our republic is based on religious freedom. The Declaration of Independence in 1776, stated unequivocally that “all men are created equal... endowed by their Creator with certain unalienable Rights.” Not a one of those basic rights and liberties that our Founders outlined came with a requirement to affirm any religion.

Further, the United States Constitution begins with the establishment clause. Not only is the government not allowed to force any religious organization to adhere to any particular theological, spiritual and moral convictions, no religious institution can use the government to impose its particular views on the American public by means of law. In the second part of that clause, the free exercise of religion requires that we respect the conscience and convictions and the many religious traditions and non-religious people across the nation.

The United States government recognizes marriage with a properly authorized, government-issued marriage license. No religious ceremony is necessary for the legitimacy and the legality of a marriage recognized by agencies of American government.

At heart, marriage equality is among the constitutional rights granted to all citizens. While particular scriptures can be used to condemn same-sex love, law, not scripture is the foundation of government regulations regarding marriage in the United States.

What many who use a religious argument against marriage equality do not realize is that the same First Amendment that protects their religious liberty protects everyone else’s as well.

Religious freedom matters. Marriage equality matters.

Crossposted from Queer Today: http://queertoday.com/profiles/blogs/religious-freedom-matters

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posted by [personal profile] marygriggs at 09:52pm on 21/06/2012 under ,


It is June and another Pride month is upon us. There are many in our community who don’t think we need this celebration. I’ve heard them argue that we’ve not only assimilated into the majority culture but that our insistence on this annual ritual of parades and festivals actually pulls our movement backward when those videos of drag performers, ass-less chaps and Dykes on Bikes are shown in middle America.

I think they couldn’t be more wrong.

I see Pride as showing our power. Being seen matters especially in the political realm where having a visible presence is a prerequisite for gaining any kind of power.

Slipping out of our minority status for even a day can be incredibly empowering. I just returned from a literary conference put on by the Golden Crown Literary Society – a group that supports and promotes lesbian literature. We took over part of a hotel in Minneapolis, Minnesota and it was wonderful to no longer be merely ten percent (or less) of the population. From the conference rooms to the elevators, from the pool to the bar, we were the majority. Women who had been marginalized for reading and writing about lesbian lives found welcome in our numbers and it was good.

And we can all experience such moments. For the short time of the Pride, we are no longer in the margins or hiding in the shadows or living in our closets. We are out in the streets and claiming the public space as our own. It can be incredibly liberating.

Suddenly, surrounded by the people of our tribe, no one can deny we exist. We don’t have to look to the few out celebrities for our role models. Our neighbors, our coworkers, the other parents at our kids school, our classmates are all out there with us. Seeing so many of my LGBTQH* brothers and sisters, walking around and being happy fills my heart with gladness and recharges my will to fight for those other 364 days when I don’t.

So, I hope I will see you out there – marching and carrying on – because we are many and we are beautiful!

*LGBTQH – lesbian, gay, bisexual, transgender, queer/questioning, HIV affected

Crossposted from Queer Today
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posted by [personal profile] marygriggs at 06:37pm on 28/04/2012 under ,

I attended the Louisiana Rally Against the War on Women today in Baton Rouge and was impressed by the speakers who addressed many facets of women's rights--from violence against women and victim blaming to reproductive choices; from abortion to the Equal Rights Amendment. While the numbers of those gathered did not break a hundred, it was great to be a part of a nationwide movement to unite women against the attacks from religious extremists and legislators. For more information on the movement, go to http://www.unitewomen.org. The Facebook page for the Louisiana Unite Against the War On Women is: http://www.facebook.com/groups/CAJUNWOW/



I also gave a speech on the Lesbian Agenda that was very well received. I'm posting it here:



I’m speaking to you today as a lesbian with an agenda. Yes, it is true—we have an agenda!


Our agenda isn’t so big, so unmanageable, so unrealistic that is an impossible dream. No, our agenda is really quite simple. We want equality. We want to be treated fairly, with the same legal protections as everyone else.


For example:


We want to work without being afraid of losing our job if our boss learns we are not straight.


We want to be safe in our homes and not risk eviction because our landlord sees our lives as a violation of some morality clause.


We want the students of this state to be safe from being bullied for any reason but especially we want them to be safe from abuse because of their real or perceived gender identity or sexual orientation.


We want families in this state to be made stronger by laws that focus on the best interest of the child and not on the sexual orientation or gender identity of the parents.


We want loving gay and lesbian couples to be eligible for the same rights and responsibilities of marriage as the meanest murderer on death row who marries their pen pal receives as a matter of course.


We want our transgender brothers and sisters to not be at risk of violence for just being themselves or for using the bathroom of their choice. We don’t want them to face discrimination in health care due to bias against gender non-conforming people.


We want to be free from humiliation or refused service in any public place like a restaurant, a bar or a hotel because we showed the slightest signs of affection to our partners.


We want to walk the streets without fear harassment by law enforcement or other authority because they don’t approve of our orientation or because we can’t conform to their gender binary system.


We want our LGBT service members to, not only serve openly and proudly, but to have their partners treated with the same respect and be eligible for the same benefits as other service members families.


Unfortunately we live in a state where none of these are guaranteed. In fact, we’re in a city that can’t even pass a non-binding resolution to welcome people of all genders and orientations. There is a lot of work to be done but I believe we can do it if we work together.


What unites Americans is equality. It is probably a reason many of you are here today. It will hopefully be what gets you to the polls in November. I call on every one of you to join the fight for lesbian, gay, bisexual and transgender equality. Equality will be a reality if we stay united!


I want to end by mentioning a couple of bills that will be heard this session:


Senate Bill 100 is a public employee non-discrimination bill that would protect employees of the state from being fired because of their sexual orientation or gender identity. This bill will be heard on Thursday, May 3. Contact http://www.ForumForEquality.org for more information.


As most of you know, the enumerated anti-bully bill that was written in coalition with educators, disability rights advocates and LGBT activities was gutted in committee and then withdrawn by the author. We thank Rep. Smith for her dedication and we are happy that she has not given up on passage of HB 407 or its sister bill in the Senate SB 619 but we also face several bills, including a religious right to bully bill sponsored by the Louisiana Family Forum that must be defeated.  Go to www.stopbullyinglouisiana.org to find out how you can help protect all of our students.


Thank you!



 



 


This was originally posted on Queer Today: www.queertoday.com/profiles/blogs/the-lesbian-agenda

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